Why do single fathers get so much more help then single mothers???? Is it because society thinks that fathers need assistance with raising children by himself and that mothers don't???? Is it because fathers are not natural nurturers??? Why is it alright it today's society to judge a woman because she is single and raising children but support a man who is single and raising children???
I know several single fathers and I know several single mothers and am a single mother myself and I have personally witnessed the differences between how I and other single mothers are treated compared with how single fathers are treated.
Single dad raising two children is given a three bedroom unit by department of housing, a house full of furniture by salvos including a TV, washing machine, fridge, dryer, couch and beds, He is visited by Vinnie's regularly with food baskets and gifts for the children, his children are picked up fortnightly by the big brother/sister program who take the children for 2 hours on a Saturday morning to give good old dad a break, he is receiving a pension and does not work.
Single mum raising two children is called into centrelink regularly to see whether or not she has been successful in finding a job, she is living in a woman's refuge with many other women waiting for emergency accommodation from housing she she can finally have a place to call home, she has the clothes on her back and a few second hand clothes which have been given to her by the refuge and has been to both the salvation army and Vinnie's looking for help but unfortunately they are not able to offer assistance at this stage and have told her to come back next week.
Fair??? No but its reality.
Single dad raising one child, has a drug problem and has had the child removed from his care three times in a period of two years for physically abusing the child while under the influence of drugs and alcohol, he is being supported by Bernardo's to gain custody of his child back. He is living in department of housing, owns a car, visiting Vinnie's and salvos each fortnight to help buy food and pay his bills. When the child is returned back to his care to offer dear old dad support once a week the child is picked up by a foster carer and spends the night with the carer for respite care. He is given a lawyer for free who assists him in gaining his child back each time Docs remove the child and the child is placed in child care five days a week which dad does not have to pay for. Dad drops the child at care at 8am every morning and does not pick the child up until 5 each afternoon.
Single mum raising one child, is working three days a week while studying her degree at Uni, does not receive regular child support, has to pay child care fees, attempts to get assistance from the father of the child to pay the fees only to be told he refuses as the mother is only working part time and child does not need care, Vinnie's is unable to help her but promises a Christmas hamper will be delivered to her home to assist with the financial burden on Christmas, the hamper does not turn up, Centrelink are questioning why she should receive JETS child care assistance and are reducing her family tax benefit because the father of the child should be paying child support which he is not doing and housing have told her that her name will not be added to the list for a place of her own as she is living in one room with her mother and this is suitable accommodation for her and her child.
Fair???? No not at all but once again reality.
Today's society is making it impossible for women to get a fair deal. Single mothers are being forced to return to work when their youngest child starts school otherwise they will lose their benefit. Once the mother is working and if she is living in housing she will lose her home as the new housing regulation is if you work you are not allowed to live in housing. So mother finds herself in a catch 22. How is she suppose to be a mum to her children, work full time so she can pay private rent and still afford to pay her bills and provide her children with food??? They do not care as single mothers are a burden to society.
Today's society is making is easier for single fathers as those poor men have had their children dumped on them and need all the help they can get. Poor father lets not force him into the workforce because then how will he be able to care for the children????? Let's give him housing straight away and fill the place with furniture, he is also entitled to support from other agencies and seeing he is not the minority he is given priority for everything.
Now I have nothing against single fathers who step up to the plate and offer their children then best care possible. I have something against single fathers who have stolen these children from loving mothers to reek the rewards which they are entitled too thanks to centrelink and other government agencies who believe single fathers only exist when there is something wrong with the mothers and thus need all the extra support they can get. These people need to wake up and see that the benefits they are offering for single fathers are causing the problems.
Stop rewarding fathers for taking away children from their mothers and watch all the children handed back to mothers who are willing to struggle and sacrifice to provide for these children.
It is simply reverse prejudice..These single fathers see how easy they get it from their mates around them ,they steal children from mothers by accusations and lies ..of course when mother loses her child she will often become depressed so then the courts and the fathers continue blocking mothers and child attempts at being reunited by using the depression caused by them against her.Single fathers can be depressed its ok,if a single mother is depressed her child is legally stolen, single fathers are simply men who have willingly emasculated themselves so that they can live off the system for free and destroy their children's childhood and continue tormenting the said children's mother..Historically if a mother was unable to care for a child whether through death or illness the child was raised by the maternal grandmother,the important role of the maternal figure and carer was recognised and respected and it was infallible...Now men are feminised and they are happy to be so if it means that they can continue their selfish attitude ...in the meantime children are raised haphazardly,young girls are becoming sexualised sooner and young men do not have the concept of care,empathy and compassion as they are deprived of the one role model that provides this, the mother ...In a fair world children would be either with their mothers or female maternal relatives and would only be raised by a single father as a very last option...
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